Why does it hurt so bad?

Why does it hurt so bad not to have love shown to you? I don't know why I am still with my husband. Dec. 1st was our first wedding anniversary. After me going and spending $200 on him and getting him something he wanted...I get nothing. It's not just now but for the past 3 years I've gotten nothing for my birthday or christmas from him. It's not like I want anything big...a card would be just fine. But what really hurts the most is that he went and spent over an hour at his buddies house smokin with him instead of spending time with me. He shows no kinda love for me at all and only says that he shows love by coming home to be with me. I can't do this anymore. We have a two year old together and I don't want to take her from him...I know he loves her. I just don't know what to do.